From the daily art of managing polyamorous relationships

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On the secret of long-lasting relationships and what I am grateful for after 6 years of relationship.

6 years ago I lay in a bed and asked the question “do you want to be with me?”. I was quite young and quite inexperienced in relationships. Honestly, I had absolutely no idea about relationships. At the time, I thought it was something beautiful and I wanted to keep something that felt beautiful. That’s why I wanted this relationship, because it did me good. Continue reading

Bookrecommendation: Rubberband Families

In november 2016 this awesome book came out and I would like to recommend it to all of you. For the first tome I found my dream of a family concept illustrated in a book and I was super happy about it. Thanks a lot, you rally made an awesome job!

The book shows beautiful illustrations and it also allows us to have a look into the diversity of families. It manages to address different people and supports and empowers all of us who are not in a heterosexual two person relationship. I can imagine that the book is suitable for kids and also for all of us, who are trying not to be them anymore. It can inspire and excite in different ways and I can wanly recommend it to everyone.

By the way, I already fell in love with it on the first pages, see yourself:

“Family is a stretchable term. This book was crafted with rubberbands. Rubberbands exist individually or together, in different sizes. They accompany our everyday life. Sometimes they move to the foreground, they endure a lot and sometimes they break. Rubberbands are dynamic, flexible, reusable as well as binding. Just the right material to create a family book!”

Polyamory und Outing – why is that important?

Almost 13 years ago, when I started to explore my own sexuality and thus part of my identity, I outed myself for the first time in my life in front of friends as a queer (better then still as a lesbian). Outing yourself to people who have known you for a long time and assume that you live an unspoken heterosexuality can be difficult under certain circumstances. Continue reading

4 mothers, 1 child.

My brother and I don’t have much in common, yet he is the only person in my family who has always supported me in being who I am. I was 16 and he was 10 years old when I came out to him. Rarely have I had such an unagitated outing. It was completely irrelevant to him whom I desire and how I desire, as long as I am happy, so was he. Continue reading

Why we need a definition of “love”.

In December 1997, the film “Titanic” was shown for the very first time in the cinemas of the United States. A year later, it was the first film to earn over a billion US dollars and until 2009 it was even ranked first in the list of the most successful films. By the time I was 17, I had already seen the film several times. Continue reading

Trigger/Situations where I am reminded of old injuries..and how do I deal with them?

Do you know that feeling when your body does what it wants with you? If you notice that you actually want to behave differently, but you can’t because you feel blocked. I know that pretty well. I usually experience this feeling when I feel overwhelmed and, in a way, so surprised by a situation that my body becomes completely closed. Very often I was triggered/reminded of something in such moments. Continue reading

5 love languages and the question: When would you end a relationship?

Lately I have the feeling that I have collected a wide range of methods, tips and concepts that have helped me to better understand myself and my relationships. One of them is the 5 love languages. I would like to share with you why I find them so helpful and how they bring me to the question in the headline. Continue reading

8 Tips for dealing with jealousy

Because I find that there are almost only bad photos on the subject of jealousy, you better get a nice photo from my current stay in Colombia. ————–

As you know, I’ve been jealous for a long time. It is important to me to write appreciatively about it and also in my workshops I follow an Embracing jealousy approach. After each workshop I go home with new insights and ideas and get to know new ideas and methods for dealing with jealousy. In the following article I would like to share some of my favourite tips with you, as I don’t want to be the only one who benefits from it. Continue reading

How open must my open relationship be? A commentary on the Monopoly phenomenon.

I have two relationships. For me they are the most binding and intimate bonds in my life. Sometimes I forget that it’s not as natural as it feels. People are always surprised that I don’t have wild orgies, change sexual partners every week or jump from one short-term relationship to the next. Continue reading

Review of the first polyromantic comedy series “You, Me, Her”.

—–Spoiler alert —

A few weeks ago I stumbled across the series “You, Me, Her”, where a married straight couple begins a kind of triad relationship, after first the man (secretly) and then his wife (out of interest and jealousy when it comes out) meets an escort and both fall in love with her. Continue reading

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